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Q: Should I keep my texts long or short?
A: I would advise you to keep them as short as possible.
The reason for this is that humans today have an attention span shorter than a goldfish, just 8 seconds, according to a study conducted by Microsoft.
You should mix it up if you want a long-term relationship with her.
It is often best to have three short and one long text, according to my experience, but since girls are different, try to keep them as straightforward as possible.
Q: What should I not text a girl?
A: When you send an SMS to a girl, it is of the utmost importance that you abide by three simple rules on what not to text her:
Don’t try to prove something by texting her “uber-cool” stuff or being over-excited and answering questions you want to ask her.
This article covers the things you should never text a girl in greater detail.
The worst-case scenario is that you answer your questions before you ask them, e.g., Want to hang out? Maybe you’re too busy tonight; I’ll text you again tomorrow.
That’s also another thing you must avoid, being desperate.
Besides acting “uber-cool,” being over-exciting is a significant turn-off for girls. Please don’t show off if you have a selfie with the Pope or with some celebrity.
She will not think you’re strange, and it is when you impress her!
In my article How to Text a Girl you Like, you won’t read more about what to text a girl and what not to text a girl.
Q: Should I use ambiguity?
A: Yes, ambiguity is good when you want to build sexual tension.
Using words that might be taken as sexual but not necessarily need to be will build a sexual attraction.
As a rule of thumb: Don’t use outright sexy messages unless you have been sexual with her in real life.
Q: Should I talk dirty to her?
A: It depends on the girl.
Some girls are okay with it, and others aren’t.
You should focus on texting her emotional texts the first couple of times, although I do not recommend getting sexual with her immediately.
Once you know her, you can send her dirty texts like these.
Q: Should I use humor?
A: Yes, humor is an excellent way to see if you are a match for one another.
You should use the whole HIT formula, which I talk a lot about in this blog, especially in the article How to Text a Girl You Like and make it work for you and in the article Funny Things to Text Her.
Q: Should I use self-degrading language?
A: No and Yes. Yes, if you want to tease her by telling her that you’re out of her league, you don’t know what she sees in you. No, if you are using it to degrade yourself.
Q: Should I ask her about her day and similar things?
A: Yes, show her that you care about her.
Whether you are looking for a long-term relationship or just casual sex, asking a woman about how her day was, what she has done, or even what she has eaten shows her that you care about her.
To be frank: If you want to get her in bed, ask her about her day.
Q: Where can I learn more about how to pick up a girl through texting?
A: One of the best programs currently available is Magnetic Messaging, and although I strongly suggest you join it, you might want to read my review of it first.
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