The HIT-Formula: For Texting a Girl and Dating a Girl
The HIT-Formula is an acronym that consists of the three main ingredients of dating: Humour, Intelligence, and Trust.
I’ve come to realise that it is not easy for new readers to identify this.
Even though I have discussed it in articles on both this blog and my main blog, I thought I could do a better job just explaining it.
This article is an overview. If you want the in-depth training, I highly recommend that you sign up for my free newsletter, so you will learn when you should use the formula in greater detail.
HIT-Formula: Humour and Honesty
The “H” in the HIT acronym can either stand for humour or honesty.
Both are important in relationships; short or long-term doesn’t matter. It is, in fact, one of the keys to any successful relationship as well.
To make her laugh should always be one of your goals.
In all honesty, who doesn’t like to laugh?
Science proves that laughing makes you more relaxed and releases endorphins, the “feel-good” chemical, into your brain.
If you can make her laugh, you are already halfway to ask her out on a date.
Laughing will make her feel good about herself and increase her well-being enormously, especially if she had a crappy day.
The other “H” that is interchangeable with humour in the HIT acronym is honesty.
Of course, it is more critical when you see her on the actual date.
However, you must begin to be honest with your true intentions as soon as you start texting her. Let her know that you do not want to be her friend from the beginning.
It is, by far, the best way to stay out of the dreadful “friend zone”.
Just being her “text-buddy” or her “friend” won’t get her out on a date, and it won’t get her into your bedroom either!
I recommend honesty from the first text message you ever send her.
HIT-Formula: Intelligence or Intrigue
The next letter in the HIT formula is the “I“, referring to intelligence or intrigue.
Most girls like guys who can have an intelligent conversation with them.
Indeed, some girls like men with big muscles, but they still want to discuss things with important guys. Girls wish to provide some insight, at least enough, that shows that the guy cares about her.
It is the reason why skinny and nerdy guys can get girls.
As a man, you need to know what women want without them saying it to you, tricky.
Some girls are impatient and want you to know what they want before they know it themselves. I won’t lie to you: It can be challenging.
My best advice to you is to do some research on your own, to gain insight into what she likes. Start by asking her in a text. Then look on the Internet to get some information about the topics that interest her.
Intrigue is a different matter. Yet, it works l to get a girl out on a date.
I would describe intrigue as “a profound interest in someone or something that make the person curious about the object of interest“.
It doesn’t matter if it is a person, a subject or an object, e.g. a table.
All that matters is that there is a profound interest from one person directed to, in this case, another human being.
You need to spark an interest in that person, and there are two ways to do it:
- One way is, of course, to send her these texts.
- The other way is to answer the questions she will send you in a way she didn’t expect. Not rudely or ignorantly, just in a different way.
Just remember that you should not show that you are interested in her yet.
Why? Because then she will know your feelings and stop answering your texts, and she will never even go out on a date with you. Some girls love if you chase them around, but if they know that you are into them, the chase and “fun” is over for them.
If you don’t want that to ever happen to you, do this instead.
Now that you know these “texting-tricks”, which I discuss in further detail in my newsletter, it is time to discuss the final letter of the acronym, the “T”.
HIT-Formula: Trust
The last letter in the HIT formula is “T“, and it always stands for trust.
You can never buy trust, but you can earn it.
To earn trust, you must put a lot of effort into her and tell her that you are committed and ready for a relationship. It is not by words but by your actions.
By not pushing things and do things that discomfort her, you will build trust.
It is also why you must discuss things that she likes so that it won’t be just one-way communication.
Remember this: Texting should always be communication between two people.
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After all, trust is something you give a person you know and like.
My best advice to you about trust is to act accordingly to what you promise. If you promise to text her tomorrow, then make sure that you do it too.
It will tell her that you are trustworthy, and this builds trust.
Another thing that builds trust is showing your weaknesses. It all boils down to honesty.
After texting with her a while, you must tell her about something you’re not good at or don’t know. It shows her that you are human and not a superhero that can’t make mistakes.
Learn more about trust and the importance thereof in this article.
The HIT-Formula in Texting
This paragraph only offers you an overview of how you can use the HIT formula in texting.
I would always recommend that you use the HIT formula in this order:
- Begin with humour or honesty.
- Then continue with intelligence or intrigue.
- Finally, you focus on building trust.
If you wish to learn about it in greater detail, you can read my article How to Text to a Girl You Like.
The HIT-Formula in Dating
In dating, things are not as specific as in texting.
You can use the order I suggested above, or you can do it in the opposite order. The main reasons for doing it in that order are:
- When you are dating, you are meeting a flesh-and-blood person in the real world. Things might evolve differently from what you expect initially, e.g. she might not laugh at your jokes. Then you might want to try another order and start by sharing something that most people do not know about you to build trust.
- You might react differently to how you expected. If this happens, it can be a good thing to reverse things. It may help you get out of the uncertainty mode and will boost your self-esteem. Trust me, this matters, and girls have a “radar” for these kinds of things.
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Disclaimer: Although I have described hypothetical situations in this article, human relationships are ambiguous and do not always follow rational patterns or behaviours.
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